“What comes out of your mouth comes into your life.” – Jen Sincero
Is the pen sharper than the sword? The pen to paper has written the words that were spoken to move the masses to great heights and sparked the fury of insurmountable destruction around the world. It all started with a single word, phrase and dialogue. So I ask you, do you think before you speak?
It is so easy to get lost in the moment and rush ahead to say something, anything, just to be heard at a particular time. We vent anger and frustration thoughtlessly due to our current situations upon others without a hesitation. Why? How can we do better on a daily basis? Where do we start? These are just some of the questions I’ve asked myself and after reading this we’ll have the tools to use our voice to IMPACT not tear down.
How do you speak to yourself?
Our inner dialogue is where it all starts. When we wake up first thing in the morning until the time we lay our head down
on our pillows at night. Are you hard on yourself no matter how much you’ve produced on any specific occasion? Comparing yourself to those around you? These are just some of the pitfalls we fall into as a driven individual striving for greatness. We need to be conscious on a daily basis to pat ourselves on the back, acknowledge our progress and accept others praise about what we’ve accomplished. This enables us to stay motivated keeping a forward momentum. Also keep stress levels to a minimum and enjoying success with each brick we lay. Here negatives to delete and positive self talk phrases to implement…
“Negative” < Move to > “Empowering Words”
I’m feeling…. I’m feeling….
– Unmotivated – Ready to go!
– Depressed – In a cloud of ideas
– Disappointed – Unsatisfied
– Frustrated – Passionate for better
– Impatient – Eager to achieve
– Rejected – Fueled my fire
– Stressed – Overwhelmed with opportunity
– Unaccomplished – Getting better each day
Do your emotions get the best of you?
It is in our nature to be emotional for many of us we lead with our hearts. We can be as soft as a pussy cat or as fierce as a lion in a split second. It’s how we are wired as a race. Either we move towards pleasure or stuck in a painful rut. Good news is that we have the power to change that in an instance. Our bodies’ are an excellent tool to monitor our current feelings at any specific moment. Take a second and perform a little test. Close your eyes and think of a current situation that isn’t just right and causes anxiety, stress or discomfort in your life. Notice your breathing, heart rate may rise, perspiration in areas and body temperature rises. Let it Go… Now close your eyes and focus on the accomplishment of your dreams and how you envision your life in becoming. Deep full breathes, confidence rises, smiling, strong and powerful. Let it Go… It’s that simple! You have the power to control your emotions every minute in moving towards more pleasurable situations. Thus giving others more emotionally charged words for betterment not anger. Cues to monitor…
- Heart Rate
- Current Circumstance
- Surrounding People
Are you speaking to others as if you are looking in a mirror?
A great rule of thumb is the mirror trick. Would you stand in front of a mirror and curse at yourself, call yourself names
or attack any insecurities that might be locked away for others not to find? I hope not! That would be totally destructive to your growth as an individual. Then why is it ok for so many to lash out at each other? This can be the simplest act done on a daily basis that would not only make you walk more confident but would enlighten someones else’s day that could be really lacking. Aim to remind yourself of these few points when engaging in everyday dialogue…
- How would I like to be spoken to?
- Act as if everyone you come in contact with is having a bad day and your words could turn it around.
- When I speak with respect, I gain respect in return.
Ultimately you are the vessel that contains a powerful voice. We can speak words of empowerment to better the lives around us that can cause a chain reaction for all or we can cause destruction. Know this, that once the words are released they can’t be rewound or erased. They stick around for a while, maybe forever. Choose to live a life without the BS talk.